Many overestimate the cost of a good honeymoon – as a travel consultant I get many money conscious couples in my office restricted by the unruly cost of their big day leaving little to budget towards their romantic getaway. I feel like a counsellor at times as I put a halt to a brewing argument about just how far they are willing to break the budget to embark upon the travels of their dreams. I promise you this does not have to be the case, if you find the right dedicated agent who truly understands what experiences you seek to gain from your honeymoon, you will take that exact romantic journey you have been dreaming of and most importantly at the right price!
A key to a good travel agent is finding one that you can trust, one that will help keep within your budget, not encourage you to go over so their commission levels look good for the month. If you can find an agent that is honest, knowledgeable and offers to be by your side every step of the journey (and they are out there) then you can be sure that your honeymoon will meet both yours and the bank accounts standards. Further to this, there is nothing worse than travelling blind, if you feel nervous about your itinerary or if something should go wrong before or during your travels make sure you speak up and ask lots of questions, by no means should your agent leave you feeling alone. This comes back to just how important it is put your trust in the hands of the right travel agent, one that makes you feel comfortable, confident and leaves no questionable gaps in your itinerary.
As your personal travel guru, my promise to you is to seek out a wide range of honeymoon ideas with specific suggested itineraries to meet the needs of not only you budget conscious couples but those who generallyare stuck for travel ideas. Whether you desire a luxurious or backpackers experience, an active or relaxing experience, whether it be by air, land or sea and everything in between I will guide you every step of the way. My passion is travel, and with a degree in tourism and event management, you can be sure that I am dedicated to helping you live out your honeymoon dreams.
Stay posted for a new and unique suggested itinerary each month with specific hotels, tours, cruises and sightseeing ideas. In the meantime if you have any questions please don’t hesitate to drop me a comment and I will do my best to answer them for you.
If I had a dollar for every time couples asked me this question, let’s just say I would be lying on a beach in the Bahamas sipping a cocktail.
There is really no right or wrong answer to this question and it is honestly nothing more than a consideration of what kind of person you are and if you feel confident with words and your ability to deliver them in front of a live audience. One thing that I have definitely noticed is that the ladies are always far more eager to take on this task than the gentlemen. Why? I really have no idea but for some reason it almost always seems to be the case all but for a few exceptions.
When I sit down to put together a ceremony with a couple, the vows is always the section that takes us the longest to work through. There are lots of options and different methods of delivery and it’s often hard to decide in advance what your level of confidence will be like on the day.
The easiest way to do this is to break it down into 2 sections and they are Delivery and Content:
Firstly, Delivery:Do you want to repeat them after the celebrant or priest?
Read them from a card or
Recite them from memory
Making a decision about which method of delivery you will use greatly affects your content but we will look at that in a moment.
Secondly, Content:Do you want to write something personal from the heart
Choose a standard vow (modern or traditional)
Adapt/reword a standard vow or one personally written by someone else
Choosing a particular mode of delivery directly affects your choice of content due to the fact that if you really want to repeat the words after the Celebrant/Priest then 2-3 lines is about the maximum length you can use. Something personally written is usually not a good choice in this instance because it tends to be longer than 2-3 lines and does not come across well to guests. Vows longer than 2-3 lines are not pleasant when repeated because as you can imagine the guests feel like they are watching a tennis match, celebrant says a couple words, bride repeats the words, celebrant says a couple more words, Bride repeats and so on and on and on and then it’s the grooms turn to do it all over again!
If you choose the option repeating after the Celebrant/Priest, by far the best idea is to choose either a short standard Vow or a personal Vow that is no longer than about 3 lines in length (including the legal wording).
If you are happy to read your Vows from a card then you are free to write anything you want as long as you ensure that the approx 2 lines that the Commonwealth stipulate must be said in order for your marriage to be valid (your celebrant or priest will discuss this with you).
Handy Hint: If you decide to write your own vows then a great thing to bring it all to life is to write your vows to each other secretly and submitted them to the Celebrant/Priest separately so that the other does not know what will be said on the day. This is wonderful and adds an element of excitement for you as the couple on the day. I have seen this leave couples sobbing when the words are spoken.
Recite: The final option is to recite your vows from memory. When I got married years nearly 13 years ago I remember the Deacon who married us saying that we MUST learn our vows because it is the one thing that we have to do for ourselves on the day. I understand his point about the fact that each person should make the effort to at least remember what they want to say to the other, but in all honesty it ruined my experience of my ceremony because I was so petrified of forgetting the vows that it was all I could think about or concentrate on rather than really enjoying my wedding day and having all of my family and friends together.
Since then I have only ever had two couples who were absolutely sure that they wanted to recite their vows from memory and they were practising right up until the last moment and ………. in both cases I ended up having to prompt them through it. It is not because they just suddenly forgot, it is because it is very difficult to anticipate how powerful it is standing up there and the rollercoaster of emotions that is consuming you as you look at each other with all of your loved ones looking on.
My final bit of info on this topic is just a small caution. If you are going to write your own vows and especially if you are going to keep them secret, MAKE SURE that you are on the same page in terms of the tone. For example I had a couple who submitted their vows separately and while his was a full page of gushing about how divine his beautiful bride to be was and how he had fallen in love with her from the instant he saw her, when I read her vows my heart almost skipped a beat. Her vows were a hilarious account of their life together and all of his bad habits that disgusted her and drove her crazy and how she loved him for it. Both were great stories, but it would have been a disaster for him to give his loving speech only for her to follow with her comedy routine.
When deciding on what to choose for your vows, talk to each other about it and try to find an option that you are both comfortable with. A good Celebrant or Priest will always have a stack of options and ideas so rely on their expertise to guide you in the right direction.
If you have any problems or questions at all, feel free to comment and I am more than happy to help.
We hope that you find this blog not just entertaining, but informative and helpful and above all that we are able to use our expertise to help you in any way that we can.
We have set out to try to do something a little different with this blog and within the blogging world of the wedding industry. So how are we different you are probably wondering? Because rather than just blogging about up and coming events, reporting on what dresses people are wearing and what the latest trend of wedding shoes are, we are actually bringing together three resident bloggers, each with expertise in a certain area of the wedding industry. We hope to create an amazing blog that is able to answer ANY question you may have about your big day.
Let me introduce you to the team:
My name is Susan and I am a practising Commonwealth appointedCivil Marriage Celebrant. I have been a Celebrant for 5 years and in that time I have had the pleasure and blessing of having conducted all different types of ceremonies including weddings, baby namings, commitment ceremonies, funerals and anything else that has been requested by one of my clients. The stranger the better! Over the coming blogs I am going to take you on a tour of ‘everything ceremony’. What I mean by this is that I will be posting blogs on everything to do with how to create the most amazing ceremony. From the short and sweet ceremony to the most extravagant ceremony that includes everything a fairy princess has always dreamt of, music, mood, location and of course Content and legal requirements. I am an expert in the area of rituals in ceremony and with my clients permission I hope to be sharing some of these with you as we go along. I am lucky enough to be one of only a select few of celebrants contracted by a prominent TAFE college to provide Ongoing Professional Development to other Marriage Celebrants. Check out my full profile on our ‘about’ page.
Yasmin is on board as our residenttravel and honeymoonguru, with a thriving career as a travel agent she has hot tips on the absolute best destinations in the world. Yasmin will be posting blogs on how to get the best deals on your honeymoon, secret tips on how to get upgraded and how to ensure that you get the honeymoon of your dreams within that dreaded budget. After all who doesn’t need a great holiday after planning a wedding? Yasmin also has a degree in Events Management and will be available at your beck and call for advice on any questions you might have about venue, set up and co-ordination of your big event.
Tracy thephotographer extraordinaire, will be providing us with fantastic tips on how to get the best wedding photos you could imagine. Wedding photography is something that is a huge cost to brides and grooms and Tracy will be really focussing on how to get those all elusive amazing snaps on a budget. She will also be looking at venue choices for background shots and the classic pics that you want to make sure that you get. Tracy is also a Reiki master and EFT practitioner and she will from time to time be providing us with valuable tips on how to get yourself into a state of total and utter stress free contentment for your big day. Planning a wedding can be a massively stressful event in your life so it’s imperative that you have some strategies in place to deal with this.
So that’s us in a nutshell, but if you would like to see our full profiles head over to our ‘about’ page and have a little look.
At wedding Guru’s we will make you one promise:
We will answer any question that you throw at us about your big day and if we don’t know the answer we will find it for you!